HR is my gig and how I make a living. But it’s not my life. There are so many things going on that keep me up at night more than HR. Mostly worrying about my kids, but what mom doesn’t?
On Saturday, this little lady to our right, Autumn Pasquale was reported missing by her family in Clayton, NJ. Her body was found Monday night discarded in a recycle bin at the home of 2 teenage brothers (15 & 17) who confessed to strangling her to death. They were turned in by their mother when she became concerned about a Facebook post on one of her son’s pages. Autumn would have celebrated her 13th birthday next week. Law enforcement is speculating pre-meditation since one of the charges is “luring”.
As a mom, my emotions run the gamut between sadness and anger and everything in between for the Pasquale family. And I’m also bummed for the family of the boys. Can you imagine turning in your sons for suspicion of murder?
I sound like my parents when I ask, “what is going on in our world today?” but how can we not ask that question? Just a few weeks ago Jessica Ridgeway, a 10-year old Colorado young lady went missing and was found dead.
I posed the question on my FB page, “Do you think these boys should be tried as adults?” I don’t know every angle of the law but NJ law’s age restrictions on trying juveniles as adults is between the ages of 15 and 17 — so it’s a possibility.
Then I watched as the comments and bantering grew on my FB question. You know when random friends — a guy who you went to high school with and your girlfriend from the Midwest — will spar on your FB page. Interesting to watch and great perspectives nonetheless.
One of the arguments was that, as a society, are we coddling young people and not holding them accountable for their behavior? A kid who doesn’t experience consequences to their behavior will produce an adult who does the same. Is there too much emphasis on only getting them counseling and worrying about hurting their feelings instead of taking the
old school tough love approach? I’ve seen kids be disrespectful and mouth off to parents and the complete embarrassment of the parent forced them to react in an apologetic, excuse-producing way. “Oh, he gets this way when he’s tired.” Huh? My mother would have cracked me without uttering a word. And I would have deserved it.
I know how I feel about how these boys should be tried for this senseless crime. Some people say that God should be the only judge. But we have a court system on earth so final judgement will come later. Children at a young ages can easily know the difference from right and wrong. The demand by parents to hold children accountable for their behavior has to start early and with consistency.
But back to my original question — do you think these boys should be tried as adults? Why or why not?
And an even bigger concern — are we doing enough to ensure that future generations understand that all behavior comes with consequences and that they’ve got to own up to that behavior and accept the consequences?
Stay tuned…more on this coming up!